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By admin in Kaits Korner, Kaits-Korner on April 29, 2021

They say that children can start making explicit memories at around age two. However, most of these memories remain implicit until the age of seven. While some children report having memories as young as age two, most children do not. At 26, there is obviously more times of my life that I remember, and have explicit memories from, than there is time that I don’t. A lot of my very first memories, involve Kait and her family. KK and I grew up together all over the east coast. New York, New Jersey, South Carolina, Pennsylvania, Florida… the list goes on and on. Our travels were for us and our relationship flourished there. While we did attend school together, from the 5th grade on, she had her schedule and I had mine. I don’t think I would’ve changed a thing because when I look back, I think we had such a strong connection because we didn’t let anything get in our way. No drama from school, or silly outside things, just family. Our families became one and nothing is more special than family. Kaitlyn taught me so many of the things that I know, in life and after death. She was always more advanced than I was, and I would’ve been lost without that as a kid and as a teen. So, to tell me that I have to talk about one memory is hard because there are millions of small moments. I could realistically write a novel about the profound impact that Kait Doorhy had on my life. My first text message was sent to her, she taught me how to use social media, my first inappropriate word, falling asleep in front of the fire at Christmas Eve dinner after she had worked at MK all day. Collecting money filled Easter eggs in our mansion air b&b in Florida. Teaching me to snowboard with MY snowboard…which then made me realize I was a born skier. Making sure that my horrible high school nickname, Karen, stuck all the way through to my adult life. Marching next to you in my NJROTC uniform, while you waved politely as strawberry queen. A lifetime of memories that definitely ended too soon. We should’ve had college degrees, weddings, and children of our own. She will still be here for all of those things, just not in the way we would have liked or expected. I will never be able to understand fully why this happened. It is not fair, every day is easier than the one before, but it will never be okay. Losing you was the hardest thing I have ever been through. Not just for me, for everyone who knew you, but mostly for your family. Watching them in pain caused the most upset.  All I know is that our story is a true testament to “friends are the family you choose.”

I could not think of anyone more deserving of the title of sister than Kaitlyn and her sister Carly. I am an only child but because of them it never really did feel that way. That brings me the most comfort in times that are harder than others. We miss you Kait but thank you for all the memories you left with us. Including, but not limited to, teaching me how to make a spoon stick to my nose.

All of my love always.

Corinne

You didn’t have to lose somebody close for this to resonate with you.

You didn’t have to lose somebody close for this to resonate with you.

By admin in Kaits Korner on February 16, 2021

Feeling emotions whole-heartedly is necessary to move forward.   

To any first-time readers or new members of the organization, welcome. It is humbling and heartwarming for the core members of Kait’s Angels to have your attention on our monthly newsletter.

As many of you may know, Kaitlyn Doorhy is my older sister. She tragically passed away when I was just sixteen years old. The following years of her passing, my junior and senior year of high school, were my foggy years. What I mean by that is, I sit here now at twenty-two years old, thinking back to what some girls described as the best years of their lives, and can’t come to remember the details of my friends, my classmates, volleyball games, teachers I built relationships with… barely anything. I was numb in my head and in my thoughts. I wasn’t living like most were from sixteen to twenty years old. In fact, I don’t remember caring a single bit about what happened around me. I was just going through motions, trying to graduate and get into college so I could start fresh and escape the fog.

The problem with that mindset is that it was extremely irrational. Was I ever going to be able to wipe the slate clean and start completely over? No, that’s not realistic, not for anyone or any situation. Shutting out the things that bring us down is a trap. It set me up for making disappointing decisions that did not reflect a slither of the person I am today or the person my parents raised me to become. These very emotions and events that we block out WILL creep back…but a lot more aggressive than the first time. So, what is my advice? Face the struggle face-to-face, not back-to-back. Face the struggle face-to-face, not back-to-back.

How do we do this? “It’s so much easier to act like it’s not bothering me and keep on going. Maybe if I distract myself with other things, I will forget about it all.” The struggle lies in the fog itself. You must not turn your back on it. What would happen if we turned our back in a boxing ring? The other opponent would take advantage of you and pin you down, maybe even knock you out. If you turn your back on the fog, it’s going to circumnavigate itself around you no matter what you do to try to avoid it. I turned my back on the fog and I eventually had to deal with my emotions, consequently wasting the time I had to grow mentally and win the match.  

There isn’t a day that goes by I don’t think about my sister; what could have been, where we would be today, and how different my life would be now. The difference is in the way I think about her. I used to hear her name and automatically feel a sense of sorrow, some guilt, sadness and heartbreak. You may think of your struggles with the same emotions, whether it be the death of someone close to you, a break up with someone you loved or are still in love with, or maybe you have been disappointed by someone you love. The average person will tend to think of these situations in a negative light for days, months, years, or maybe even an entire lifetime. Whether we spend ten days, ten months, or ten years hashing out these feelings in our head, the event will always remain.

Are we wrong for feeling what we feel? Absolutely not. These are the emotions we are programmed to feel. Our bodies and brains are wired to feel any which way we need to feel for extensive periods of time. We will even place the blame on ourselves to make it easier to comprehend and digest. “What if this happened instead” or “maybe if I said this differently.” Thinking about ways in which it could have been different rather than reflecting on what is, is a sign you are still in the fog. We break through the fog by moving forward; excited for the future, thankful for the present, and endlessly aware of our past.

The question I ask is, do you feel at peace from what you have gone through or do you feel trapped in the fog?

To dwell is to remain. To accept and reflect is to move forward. You must be able to accept what is, be thankful for what you had, remember the laughs you shared, and the person they have helped you to become.  

STUFF THE TRAILER

STUFF THE TRAILER

By admin in Stuff A Trailer on April 13, 2020

Annual Donations Accepted
From November – December 12
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WHERE: EAST ON MAIN RESTAURANT
10560 Main Road, Mattituck 11952
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WHAT TO BRING:

UNWRAPPED TOYS
GROCERY GIFT CARDS
GAS GIFT CARDS
RESTAURANT GIFT CARDS
NEW SOCKS/UNDERWEAR
NON PERISHABLE FOOD
TOILETRIES
NEW CLOTHING ITEMS

Annual Designer Handbag WINGO

Annual Designer Handbag WINGO

By admin in Events on April 10, 2019

Designer Handbag WINGO Night is Friday, June 10th, 2016 at Macari Vineyard located at 150 Bergen Avenue in Mattituck, NY!!

if you’ve played bingo, you’ll know wingo!

Hosted by Kait’s Angels, come enjoy a night out full of fun, wine, wingo, raffles, and a special “angel auction”

There will be a large selection of wines available!

***BRING YOUR OWN SNACKS***

How to purchase tickets:

Tickets are $50 in advance $60 at the door.

Advance tickets can be purchased as follows:

– at LOVE LANE SWEET SHOP on Love Lane in Mattituck

– at WENDY’S DELI in Mattituck

– ONLINE at www.kaitsangels.org  (TICKET WILL BE AT WILL CALL AT THE DOOR ON THE DAY OF THE EVENT)

– by sending a check/money order ($50 for each ticket requested) made out to “Kait’s Angels” to P.O. Box 1081, Mattituck, NY 11952.  (TICKET WILL BE A WILL CALL AT THE DOOR ON THE DAY OF THE EVENT.)

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Doors open at 6pm, gameplay starts at 7pm sharp.  Your ticket includes 8 games and a complimentary glass of wine!!

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All proceeds to benefit Kait’s Angels and all donations are tax deductible.

Visit our website and sign up to be an angel today! Visit the Make A Difference section and click on “Become An Angel.”

For more information email us at info@kaitsangels.org